Hi @Captain24 its just that everytime I think about my mum telling me about her and my aunty wanting to assign me a male that I need to be in a relationship with before “it’s too late” (in her opinion) — unfortunately for her she considers early 20s to be the age where people (especially females) are supposed to be in a relationship and get married at as she was born and raised in a culture that pretty much does that? 😭
like my aunty is planning to assign a guy in our ethnic country to me either the year after or so as my mum did say that it’ll happen in 2 or 3 years time that I’d need to be in a relationship…
and everytime I think about that, as well as the fact that she considers starting a relationship “later” than that particular age group to be “too late”. And yet whenever I told her I don’t ever wish or want to be in a relationship, she strongly opposes that decision because she wants me to be with someone who can like “look after me even when I get old” and stuff like that…
I even told a few diffeeent mental health professionals (my counsellor and psychologist) about this issue as well like a few times already since it’s like I can’t seem to even get free from my mum’s expectations and values….like she totally took my freedom away already so that’s why I always have to cry about it everytime I think about why I can’t have parents who don’t mind their kids being single regardless of their age and their reason/decision for it…
fyi she first told me that my aunty wants to introduce me to a guy in our ethnic country back in august. But then soon after she told me that my aunty will find other guys there for me that I need to be with and that it’ll happen within the nextv2-3 years when I’ll have to be with him…and don’t worry they’re males that are like 1 year older than me or at least 2 years older than me I hope
