Not Coping

[Birdofparadise8]

Yeah, I guess so. It's hard to explain that I'm not distressed when people think I am. I try my best, but it doesn't seem to work.

@Jynx 

[Birdofparadise8]

Oh @Former-Member 

I'm so sorry. I do hope you stay. So many of us care about you deeply and I know the profound impact you've had on me has been wonderful. 

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 are you watching TV? I stopped watching Young Sheldon because I was concentrating on chat and reading news shorts.

I'm watching Eras again 😁

[Birdofparadise8]

I'm watching Young Sheldon @ENKELI 

I love rewatching shows. 

Well I don't blame you it's a good movie. 

Let's support @Former-Member, @ENKELI 

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 I decided to keep Disney+ because I knew I'd want to watch it again.

I posted a message for @Former-Member.

I want to read the entire dialogue and am disappointed if messages have been deleted. 

Flamingo is a darling and I don't like the thought they might be feeling vilified. 

[Glisten]

@ENKELI  when you write “needy”, I read narcissist. I use to describe my ex as “needy” before I knew what narcissism was.

SANE Forum Family are wonderful because of the rules, boundaries, guidelines, accessible reliable information education and well educated lived-experience monitors that constantly support us.

If our personal relationships had the same rules, boundaries, guidelines and monitored support, it would save a lot of grief.

G

[Birdofparadise8]

Fair enough, plus you're working now. 

I saw that was very kind of you. 

I am a little confused about what happened, but I'm disappointed with the circumstances as you are. @Former-Member is a valued member here. I know you and many others, and I care about her. @ENKELI 

What are you doing tomorrow?

[Glisten]

@ENKELI  It’s this

The root end of a tree stump.

Dug it up in my son’s backyard by hand.

Clay. Pick :pick:️, 🪓, hand saw 🪚. 
Two car jacks and three ratchet straps.

 

[ENKELI]

@Glisten I hadn't experienced narcissism prior to meeting this person but yes she was (still is I'm sure) a narcissist and I have always been drawn to the wounded and broken. Probably because I identified as wounded. And now broken. 

When I tried to get away she drew me back in, using her kids as bait. She knew my Godson and Goddaughter were my weaknesses. When she cut me off she told me I knew nothing about her kid's lives - no, I just supported them and her financially and emotionally for 8 years. That was when I broke. And further events broke me more.

I had to see HR at work on Friday and I couldn't stop from crying because of the way I'd been treated by 2 separation HR people in my previous job. I'm in tears as I recall it.

My new HR person is amazing and reminded me that this is my job until retirement. I'm not used to that.

I too wish life had the same rules as Sane. We probably wouldn't need Sane then though.

[ENKELI]

@Glisten wow! You are amazing! You're welcome at mine any time to dig out the tree stump in my back yard!!

I love the pictures, I could stare at them for hours. 

It's like a piece of art.