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Taylorroet
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I need advice

Good afternoon everyone Smiley Happy I was hoping I could receive advice on how to go about this situation (it is quite long so just putting that out there)

Basically my Aunt is extremely schitzophrenic, and extremely paranoid. She is not diagnosed but shows clear signs. The problem is that she refuses to believe she has schitzophrenia. I think deep down she knows, and therefore the voices in her head tell her she has it. However, she thinks it's a ploy to put her in a mental hospital. She thinks there are real life people trying to send her insane and make everyone think she is mentally unwell, except these people aren't actually there. 

I know this because she treats Facebook like her diary. You could just scroll through her Facebook and it's status after status after status. Ranging from a paragraphs long to essays long. She writes about everything. What the voices tell her. How they tell her she's fat. Or how she will never compare to her sister (my mum) if I keep going I could go on forever. It's crazy how many new things she posts about. 

She has an aggressive past and has hurt people before (using her fists and weapons) She could be a danger to society if anyone were to tick her off which could be pretty easy. 

My cousin (her daughter) has just given birth to a baby, and so she is very fragile at the moment. The severity of this is that my cousin doesn't even trust her own mother with her baby and is too scared to tell her in fear of what she'll do. 

My aunt is not in contact with her mother, but does talk to my grandfather over the phone where she'll tell him about the voices. My family have told her time and time again so seek a psychologist where she can talk to. She is too paranoid to see one in fear she'll be put in prison.

The whole problem in this situation is that she will not seek help no matter what. She is in denial. Simply being there for her won't work. She will be like this for the rest of her life if she does not get help. It has been like this for years. 

My grandfather doesn't have the heart to involuntarily admit her. And my grandmother doesn't want to seem to have anything to do with it. So they palm her off to my mother (her sister) and tell her to do something about it. We also live 6 hours away so it makes things extremely hard.

 

Personally, I think she needs to be involuntarily admitted if she were to ever get better. I miss my Aunty before all of this. And I think the only way she will realise she actually has schizophrenia is to go on medication and recover. But also if this is the only way how do I go about this? I am only her neice. But no one else besides my mother and I will do anything. Everyone's scared for her. I can't imagine how it makes my cousin feel who has just had a baby. Anyway I apologise if this was too descriptive or long but I'm looking forward to your responses. Thanks heaps

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Re: I need advice

Hi @Taylorroet.

I'm so glad you've reached out here on the forums. It sounds like you have had a lot going on and that it has been pretty overwhelming. 

 

Supporting someone who is experiencing complex mental health issues can be really challenging, especially when you are concerned for their safety. You might want to check out the 'Our Stories' thread as people have shared stories of supporting people they care about there as well. 

 

It's really important to take care of yourself in amongst your concern for your aunty. Do you have any support systems in place other than the forums?

Sending healing vibes,

HappyCastle 

Re: I need advice

Hello @Taylorroet 

 

I am not sure what to suggest.  Heavy corercion often does not work.  My mother had a diagnosis of schizophrenia and a range of symptoms at different times, but was in total denial.  Unfortunately it made a mess of my family.  It was def not all her fault, but the rigidity of thinking and reality of attachment and abandonment issues are still plyaing out 5 years after she has passed.  I loved my mother, but maybe more than she was actually capable of loving and hearing other peoiple's needs.  Maybe it would help if you could talk about it with more senior family members.  An eg when I was trying to breast feed my first born, my mother mocked my efforts and boasted about not being a cow.  Yes I knew all that ... weary sigh ... it will not be easy for your cousin ... other approach could be just support the cousin and baby in the best way you can without taking on too much responsibility, and live your own life ....that way you will not be accused of going behind back of aunt ... 

Not easy situation.

Take Care Apple

Re: I need advice

Hi @Taylorroet 

 

Her daughter sounds like the family member closet to this, What does she want to do about it?

 

 

Re: I need advice

She has no clue how to go about this situation and she is extremely worried. She would be going through extreme stress at the moment and I don't want to put her through more stress so I have just been talking with my aunts son instead. We are thinking maybe to seek advice from a doctor. 

Re: I need advice

Okay I will do thankyou

Re: I need advice

@Taylorroet @AussieRecharger @Appleblossom @HappyCastle 

 

Hi Taylorroet,

 

If you would like people, to whom you are responding, know that you are responding to their message, you may start, or at any time in the text of your message, indicate the person's forum name with an @ symbol in front of the name. When you are replying to a message the @ symbol will give a dropdown list of the most recent responders and you can left-mouse-click on the name of the person to whom you wish to respond.

 

I think that there are others on the forum who are better able to respond to your enquiry than I am.

However, I certainly realise that your position is difficult. I can really understand how you would want to support and also protect your cousin and her baby. Also, feelings for Aunts are special and we don't like them to experience avoidable pain or inflict psychological or physical pain or injury to others. Unfortunately, if that does happen, she and the family may have little or no choice in dealing with the consequences.

 

In the hope that suggestions already made, and from others, who may come online will be helpful,

 

With My Best Wishes for You and Your Family

HenryX.

Re: I need advice

@Taylorroet 

 

Does she live alone or not?    She may be afraid of old ways of dealing with people with troubled minds.   There is a lot less hospitalisation than in the past. It is a good idea to go with son to a gp.  A lot depends on how she is living at the moment, for herself, and then the family relationships.

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