Morning @pancakes,
Here is what I would like to share with you, but please take only what sits right for you...
Sometimes things are really hard and no matter how much we try to hold back the tidal wave of emotion, the feelings that arise from facing life's challenges have a way of knocking the wind out of you.
To share a little of my experience, when I went through a legal situation I was the most intimidated I'd felt in my life. I remember I couldn't sleep, couldn't think, and I had an overwhelming feeling of anxiety 24/7. What I wish I could have told myself at that time was that it gets better – feelings are not permanent, and whilst you may continue to face challenges as a result of the outcome, that tidal wave of emotion isn't as strong. I know it doesn't feel like it right now, but you have a resilience in you @pancakes that is evident to all in this community and will see you through this tough time.
Specific tips? Well I think the most important one is to take good care of your body so it can support you through this. What I mean by that is all the boring stuff like:
- Sleep – or rest if sleep is a challenge
- Eating healthy – making some meals that you can freeze or having some easy go-to recipes when you have the strength to cook
- Reaching out to friends/supports to talk through the tough times – don't go it alone, there is always someone who will provide space to sit with you
- Do nice things – have a bath, go sit by the water, pat a pet, watch funny Youtube clips, anything that can distract you, even for a moment
- Biggest tip – breathe today! You will no doubt feel a surge of adrenaline as your body braces for the challenge. If you breathe in for 3 and out for 3 gently this will help to regulate your nervous system (it's hard to do, and easier when you practice)
None of these are fool proof or cures, they're just some of the things I've used to help me face challenges with kindness and a bit of empathy for myself.
Best of luck today, we'll be here with everything crossed for you @pancakes 💙
