06-04-2024 05:25 PM
06-04-2024 05:25 PM
Thanks so much @ENKELI 🌺🤗 I really appreciate that 🙂💜
Yes, unfortunately there is a lot of blame that is put automatically on women (although I do want to kindly acknowledge that that is not always🌺)…I even had a doctor of mine ask me - when I mentioned I was no longer with my then husband - what did you do to annoy him so much? Which would’ve been ok if he was joking, but the tone clearly conveyed his attitude. Rest assured, after a slight pause, I gave him a very concise and hard line response that made him blush, stammer, and apologise profusely. As well as my most excellent cold stare haha 😉🙌🏻
This is very much our time to shine, yours and mine and all others who have been suppressed and rejected, despite the marginalisation experienced 🙂🌺💜
06-04-2024 05:26 PM
06-04-2024 05:26 PM
@Birdofparadise8 yes, back when I bought my house my mum pretty much told me my brother would be moving in with me so that I wasn't a single female living alone. He used to help out a lot but the past 8 years when I moved in with my ex friend to help her out my brother just got lazy and did nothing around the house aside from the bare minimum. Now he's getting snotty because he's not used to me telling him to clean up after himself. I like to vacuum once a week not once a month like him for example. It's an uphill battle but if already told him he better shape up or ship out!
What are you doing this evening?
06-04-2024 05:28 PM
06-04-2024 05:28 PM
Yeah, well now he is offering to let me go out with him tonight. I have told him so many times I don't like drinking, staying out late, or going to nightclubs.
yes he is 24 @Former-Member
Oh gosh I hope things improve @ENKELI
I'm watching the AFL right now carlton are losing.
06-04-2024 05:35 PM
06-04-2024 05:35 PM
OMG he just said, "tbh I feel like we don't have much in common, we will have to find something"
I thought we got on well at uni last year @ENKELI @Former-Member
06-04-2024 05:44 PM
06-04-2024 05:44 PM
@Former-Member I would have loved to have been a fly on the wall when you told the dr the facts!
My aunt made a comment once about me being engaged twice and not being able to close the deal and I responded by saying I had too much self worth to marry someone who cheats on me just to keep my relatives happy. I then asked how her daughter was, considering everyone knew she married a man who stuck it in wherever he could.
Now as you say this is our time.
https://youtu.be/rptW7zOPX2E?si=a-VsfNzwwqS9yFyu
06-04-2024 05:45 PM
06-04-2024 05:45 PM
I’m sorry @Birdofparadise8 , I really think @ENKELI has valid points regarding priorities and connections… I kind of think in this instance he sees his life moving in directions he really wants to immerse himself in..his work, his interests, and his circle of people (which would be different to students I’m guessing).
I also think that how this would impact on you isn’t something he has considered much, too, maybe?
I’m really sorry he has sent that message - it seems so distant 😞
Just remember that you have value, are important, and you matter dearest 🙂🌺
Do what will make you happy 💜
06-04-2024 05:48 PM
06-04-2024 05:48 PM
Thank you @Former-Member
Exactly well, if he doesn't want to be friends, then so be it.
06-04-2024 06:14 PM
06-04-2024 06:14 PM
Hehe, I don’t often draw out the Wiltshire tongue very often (remember those auto sharpeners?🙂), but as needed it’s quite apt at getting directly to the point! @ENKELI ☺️🙌🏻🌺
I think there is an entire semesters worth of lived experience engagement skills that health professionals could get a lot of gain from - I wish that education institutions would take the opportunity to include these kinds of units of study…this could well mitigate much of the hard task of self advocacy we all end up having to do just to get where we need to be, as health service users.
I would certainly love to contribute to a standardised foundational bunch of units for universities - they just need to see the value in making health professionals jobs easier by teaching them how to appropriately engage with lived experience in their people they see, which could cost systems a lot less, as well as make seeking help much easier, I tend to think 🙂🌺
Living in hope 😊🌺
that sounds so difficult having a relative make such judgements - hurting people like that is never ok, and justifying with how you aren’t going to be treated badly is completely relevant I feel 🙂
And it sounds so terrible that there were awful forms of behaviour that existed - I’m so sorry to hear that 😔
Yes, time to be free - I love that song, thank you for sharing 🙂🌺💜🤗
06-04-2024 06:22 PM
06-04-2024 06:22 PM
No worries @Birdofparadise8 🙂🌺
I totally understand why you’d mention what you’ve said regarding if he doesn’t want to be friends; not everyone sees the relationships they have at certain times of their lives as significant - sometimes they are seen as being transient or suited to the time they occurred in, within that context only, and feel that they wouldn’t have a connection with the people within that context, if that context didn’t otherwise exist.
many of the people I went to uni with would say openly they weren’t going to be seeing each other again once uni finishes, and it was friendships for the time they were students only.
There were a few students who kept in contact for years to come, and they were mainly students who knew the importance of connection 🙂🌺
Im so sorry, but please know it’s got nothing to do with you ☺️🌺
06-04-2024 06:24 PM
06-04-2024 06:24 PM
@Former-Member fortunately I no longer have anything to do with that aunt, just because you share someone's genes doesn't mean you have to like them, as you probably well know.
What institutions need is people like yourself to have a platform to express exactly what you said in that post. People with lived experience are better equipped than a freshly minted uni graduate. While I agree studies are required especially for complex conditions lived experience accounts for so much more than it's given credit for.
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