Not Coping

[tyme]

Fair enough. As much as you probably feel pretty low about it, it's good they tell you now than much later @Birdofparadise8 

It's okay to be stay friends with some people. From their perspective, good on them for setting boundaries early. 

This is not a reflection of you, but perhaps them in terms of their interests, goals etc. 

I recognise it may have hurt a lot. What can you do to help yourself at the moment?

[Birdofparadise8]

I'm not sure how this is a good boundary. 

I've told him so many times that I value one-on-one time, as I don't like going out clubbing (even if I didn't drink, I know I'm a party popper); it's not my thing. 

I am not sure what to do now. He wants something I can't give him and can't give me what I want. 

I'm just going to cook dinner soon. I'm making healthier sweet and sour chicken in the air fryer. 

@tyme 

[Birdofparadise8]

Hi @tyme 

Have you finished for the day?

[Jynx]

Sure has @Birdofparadise8 I'm floating about for the evening 😊

How's your weekend going? 

[Birdofparadise8]

Hi @Jynx 

No eventful so far. I saw my osteo, but my hip still isn't great. 

If you see the post below that I was telling tyme about, my friend doesn't want to hang out one on one anymore, so I'm a bit sad about that. 

I am in the process of cooking sweet and sour chicken. I am cooking the chicken in the air fryer, which is working out well, so I don't cook it in oil like my mum would, and I also don't like batter, so this is a win-win. 

I had my anatomy exam yesterday, which was alright. I would have liked a bit more time, but I can't do anything about that. I hope I pass. 

I also got my period right before the exam, so that just sucks. Since I got the Implanon put it they have been very irregular. 

Oh, one thing I was going to talk to tyme about was how much psych mentioned on Wednesday that when I post on here or am replying to an email I am distressed, but I don't think I am, I think I'm fine, I'm just trying to get out whatever it was. I'm just unsure how I wouldn't know I'm distressed. 

How are you? 

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 I think what @tyme meant is that your friend knows you prefer one on one time and he doesn't so he's setting a boundary so as not to give you false hope.

How did your osteo appointment go?

I bought some banoffi ice cream, Murray st when I did my shopping. Your sweet and sour chicken sounds yummy, I had that during the week but cheated and used a jar of pre-made sauce. I'm not sure what to do for dinner, maybe green curry. I have the ingredients and got chicken on sale. 

I fell asleep early last night so didn't end up watching Young Sheldon. 

What have you been up to today?

[Birdofparadise8]

Oh, okay, that sucks, I really enjoyed the last time we went out for dinner. 

Yeah, alright, still tight as ever. 

Yes, I am making it from scratch. I try to avoid getting the jar because of the added sugar and sodium, but I do use them when short on time. 

I hope you enjoy your green chicken curry. 

It's all good. Maybe you can watch an episode tonight. 

Nothing other than doing some calculus and talking to my parents. I'm trying to prepare for the next semester when I will be doing calculus. 

Are you feeling better today? I'm sorry things are difficult at work I am not sure how to handle it other than HR and that's what you've done. I wish I had better advice. 

Oh, and guess what? Collingwood lost, so it's even better now, hahaha. @ENKELI 

[ENKELI]

@Birdofparadise8 yay! Poor Collingwood ha ha ha!

I'm feeling better today thanks sweetie. I'm on the 2nd ep of YS, it's not as funny as BBT but I don't mind it. I'll definitely keep watching.

How's dinner going? 

[Jynx]

@Birdofparadise8 I feel you on the hip pains, it sucks hey. 

I'm sorry to hear about your friend, I know it can feel pretty rubbish. I agree with @ENKELI though, sounds like a boundary. Which can suck to be on the receiving end of, but hopefully it means a healthier relationship for you both. I mean I know I wouldn't want someone to feel uncomfortable around me because they feel obliged to spend time one-on-one. And I also have friends I only like hanging out with in a group situation - not because I don't like them, but just because we may not vibe quite right unless in that kind of setting. 

OMG how good are air fryers!! Hope it comes out super yum 😊

Mm maybe there's some distress? Maybe not though, though sometimes when we're kinda stuck in our trauma response, we can become used to how it feels and it becomes our baseline. What matters most, imo, is how you narrativise it. Like if the narrative of 'I'm distressed when communicating on forums/via email' doesn't make sense, then you don't need to take it on. 

I'm doing alright this evening, just a little miffed cos this rain was NOT forecast and my laundry on the line outside is err... soaked. Really needed fresh socks lol

[Glisten]

@ENKELI @Birdofparadise8  As long as the Eagles lose.