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29-01-2024 09:07 PM
29-01-2024 09:07 PM
BPD book club
Hi everyone,
I recently finished reading Stop walking on eggshells by Paul T Mason and Randi Kreger and would loveeee to discuss the book with people that had read the book, used some of the strategies etc.
another awesome book I ready was I hate you don’t leave me by Jerold J. Kreisman
looking forward to hearing from you all 🙂
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31-01-2024 05:22 PM
31-01-2024 05:22 PM
Re: BPD book club
Hey @Chook_,
I've read them both. All I can say is that I could relate to the books very much. However, in terms of strategies, I was a little disappointed that the books focussed on all the 'terrible' things that accompanied BPD, rather than shed light on the qualities of people with BPD
I finished off reading thinking, "Yes, I know I have all these issues... now what?"
I'm interested to hear your thoughts @Chook_
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31-01-2024 10:02 PM
31-01-2024 10:02 PM
Re: BPD book club
@tyme I have not read “yes I know I have all these issues now what” was it any good?
I hate you don’t leave me- I found this very interesting and educational as I initially started reading this when I was just beginning my journey learning about bpd.
I agree that both books don’t talking about any of the positives, I do really like the UP SET conversation style, it has helped me in many situations both at home with my partner and at school dealing with heightened children.
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31-01-2024 10:05 PM
31-01-2024 10:05 PM
Re: BPD book club
Hey @Chook_ ,
That was not the name of the book.
I meant, that after I finished reading the two books you mentioned, i was left thinking, "I have all these issues.. now what?"
Hope that makes it clearer. Sorry I wasn't clear the first time 🙂
Happy reading!
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31-01-2024 11:06 PM
31-01-2024 11:06 PM
Re: BPD book club
Hahaha no my bad , now that I reread that message it makes sense. It’s been a big day. @tyme
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02-02-2024 05:42 PM
02-02-2024 05:42 PM
Re: BPD book club
Hi @Chook_ - I haven't read the book you're talking about because I absolutely hated the title and the blurb. I think it's really difficult to find books or media about BPD that is helpful, informative and doesn't paint us as villains.
Have you heard of the holistic psychologist ? She is on instagram and also has books which I've enjoyed! Also looks into the vagus system has been really helpful for me understanding my bodies response to things!
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02-02-2024 06:23 PM
02-02-2024 06:23 PM
Re: BPD book club
@Jasper_123 thanks for your reply.
My partner said the same thing about both of the titles, I don’t recommend Walking on eggshells for someone with BPD to read, it could absolutely be triggering. I do think it was good (for me) as a carer in being able to understand BPD more and help me to put boundaries in place/ care for myself as much as I care for my partner.
I hate you don’t leave me- also a shitty title but my partner did find parts of that book helpful, he didn’t like seeing the cover of the book initially but has since read most of it.
And I do follow the holistic psychologist, she has some great posts and resources.
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03-02-2024 01:00 PM
03-02-2024 01:00 PM
Re: BPD book club
I think walking on eggshells is a terrie book for carers and suffers of bpd.
I don't recommend that book for those trying g to support people with bpd
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03-02-2024 01:06 PM
03-02-2024 01:06 PM
Re: BPD book club
I've read it @EternalFlower @Chook_ @Jasper_123 . I found it comforting and a bit of an 'ah-ha' moment for those who are carers of someone with BPD. However, from a BPD perspective, I didn't find it helpful.
I guess if depends on what you are looking to get from the book.
Hope you are all okay.
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03-02-2024 02:40 PM
03-02-2024 02:40 PM
Re: BPD book club
A big part for me that I find comforting is knowing I’m not alone in this, there are others caring and living with someone going through similar hurdles- a bit like this forum as well. It’s hard for just anyone to understand so it’s felt like a support crew through stories for me even if I don’t directly know or talk to the person.