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[Kei]

Hi I'm looking for a support group for compulsive spending disorder.

Im new,  anything help appreciated 

[tyme]

Welcome to the forums @Kei ,

Thank you for reaching out. I look forward to reading the community's insight into this. 

I don't have compulsive spending, but I do have impulsive spending. 

I wonder if this stems from the same challenges as other compulsive behaviour?

[Kei]

hi

Im not sure but it does sound along the same lines ☺️

[Kei]

Its a hard one to control 😪 

[tyme]

Please note I am speaking from my own brain. I'm not a clinician by any means.

When I think about compulsive behaviour, I consider it to stem from a feeling of control. That is, when you are engaging in a compulsion, it is fulfilling a need of being in control of something, esp when emotionally, you may be feeling out of control. And when you can't engage in the behaviour, then you somehow feel something is out of control and that something 'bad' might happen. 

This is what it was for me when I was much younger. I had severe compulsions to 'check', 'double check', 'triple check'. And if I didn't check, then the emotional turmoil was so painful.

What are your thoughts on this? @Kei 

[Dimity]

Hi @Kei do you compulsively spend on anything in particular? Years ago at different times I'd compulsively buy particular categories of things. I was also a hoarder. Now recovering. 

Hello @tyme 

@NatureLover 

[tyme]

Hi @Dimity , I'm reading along.

Yes! I can see how hoarding is linked too. @Kei 

[Kei]

Nothing in particular, but marketplace is not my friend 😬

[Kei]

I tend to spend on everyone else. Yes I'd say it's about having control of something in my life

[holdinghope5]

Hi @Kei 

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